Dear Friends… Cary Oct 30th
Early this past Saturday morning, October 27th, my dear wife Lori passed away at the tender age of just 31. She was surrounded by loved ones, in the comfort of her own home, and in absolute & perfect peace.
While I have already endured more pain than I thought humanly possible, I expect that in the days to come I will miss my lovely wife more than I can currently even comprehend.
To me, the time ahead seems truly dark and terrible.
Please bare with me… it will probably be a good long while before I am anything close to my old self again.
Your thoughts and prayers continue to be a great source of support.
God Bless,
––Cary
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October 30th, 2007 at 1:22 pm
Cary,
No amount of my words can begin to comfort your loss. I can’t imagine how I would be able to deal with the situation if I were in your shoes. I can only my condolences and prayers. I hope that you can find a way to move forward and live your life as Lori would want you to.
Pick up a guitar and let your soul pour into it.
Thank you for your sharing your life with us on this blog, Rick
October 30th, 2007 at 1:34 pm
Cary - may God hold you safely in the palm of His hand, and provide comfort and perfect peace as only our Creator can do. My prayers are with you and yours at this time.
October 30th, 2007 at 1:35 pm
You’ll be in our prayers.
October 30th, 2007 at 1:48 pm
Sincerest condolences on your terrible loss; my best wishes go out to you in this dark time.
October 30th, 2007 at 2:02 pm
Oh my God, Cary! My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to you. It has been obvious to all how much you love your wife and what she means to you. I too know the pain of such a loss, one of which I am still recovering from years later.
October 30th, 2007 at 3:45 pm
I don’t know what to say, I give you my condolences and if you ever need something please, you only have to tell me.
Khriz
October 30th, 2007 at 3:53 pm
i have no words other than you have my deepest condolences.
db
October 30th, 2007 at 4:58 pm
hey, i’m so sorry to hear this.
you’re in my thoughts.
-brian
October 30th, 2007 at 5:17 pm
I’m so sorry Cary..you have my deepest condolences..
Marco
October 30th, 2007 at 5:40 pm
That is really sad news Cary, my deepest sympathies.
October 30th, 2007 at 6:07 pm
Cary, I am saddened by your loss and moved by your fortitude to blog about it. Please know that the EGR communities’ support is only a email or blog posting away, given this that is one of the only sites where I read every word.
Please find peace. -Rick
October 30th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
Cary, I was terribly saddened to get the news today. Lori’s strength was so obvious; the fact that you’ve posted here and on her blog today shows how strong you are, even at this most difficult time. It’s amazing that two great people found each other and shared some time together.
We’re all thinking of you.
October 30th, 2007 at 7:04 pm
Rarely do I read about a loved ones death on the internet and feel such emotion, but through reading about what you’ve said here, I feel a true sadness. She sounded like a truly wonderful person who will be missed, and nothing but a kind word has ever been spoken. I hope you find comfort knowing that all of your loyal readers are with you in your time of need, and we will be here if you need anything.
I speak for myself and for others when I offer my sincerest condolences.
October 30th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
As a long time reader of the blog. I was just shocked to hear this latest news. There is not much I can do or say in this situation but to say that our thoughts are with you.
Ed
October 30th, 2007 at 8:52 pm
My deepest condolences… I read of your wife’s brave struggle on your page and then her’s and was strongly moved. My prayers are with you both.
Christian
October 30th, 2007 at 10:55 pm
I am really, truly sorry to hear of your loss… My grandfather passed away on the 15th of this month, also from cancer. My condolences.
October 31st, 2007 at 12:55 am
Just a new reader of your blog these past few months. Sad to hear about your loss, my prayers with you and your family.
October 31st, 2007 at 4:05 am
She’ll live in your heart and in people’s minds forever.
October 31st, 2007 at 5:14 am
A great musician named Jim Cuddy wrote a song called “Pull Me Through” after seeing his Uncle lose his wife to cancer. I’ll never forget what Jim said in concert before performing this song….”It’s one of life’s great ironys that you depend on one person so much to get you through all of life’s hard times, and the hardest thing you ever have to go through……you have to do it without them.”
You’re not alone.
October 31st, 2007 at 6:21 am
Cary,
Like everyone else here, I am so saddened to hear of your loss. My heart truly goes out to you and everyone who has been touched by her life.
Don M
October 31st, 2007 at 6:45 am
Cary,
It always amazes me when someone can express their true emotions just through words and you definitely have that gift Cary. The genuine love you had for your wife was truly felt by all of us and when I read your words on your site and hers about her passing it brought me to tears. I know there’s nothing any of us can say that can ever lessen the pain you’re feeling right now but I think we can all tell that your wife was truly blessed for having been able to spend even part of her life with you and yours with her and that is something you will always have.
All the best, Gary
October 31st, 2007 at 7:58 am
Cary… There are no words…
My condolences, Gavin
October 31st, 2007 at 9:04 am
My condolences—be well and take care ~Mathias
October 31st, 2007 at 11:09 am
Please accept my deepest condolences. Peace.
October 31st, 2007 at 11:23 am
I lost my wife almost 13 years ago - and I still miss her terribly every minute of every day. That is as it should be.
I wish I could offer some magic advice for how I have made it through these years, but there is none. Except possibly to include her in every thing you do. She would not let you give up, so do not!
If it gets to be unbearable, please seek out help. My friends did not understand nor did they really have the “skills” to help. Thank God there are people who do have that. So search them out. And do not hesitate if you are not satisfied to find someone else. Your soul mate would certainly do that if your places were reversed!
God bless you, and may your days ahead stay well lit so you do not lose your way.
October 31st, 2007 at 11:43 am
Cary,
Very sorry to hear this! Thank you for sharing about it in your blog. Many people out here care about you and will have you in our thoughts. Just keep looking out.
Best jp
October 31st, 2007 at 12:19 pm
Hi Cary,
I, like many others have been your site and your wife’s for some time now.
I offer you my condolences and all I can tell you is that there are so many people who care about you.
Your family and friends love you and will be there for you.
We don’t know you personally but we care too.
Keep playing music, it’s a great way of expressing yourself when words fail you.
All the best, Chris.
October 31st, 2007 at 2:47 pm
I have never posted here but look frequently and always enjoy it.
I was recently married and can’t imagine what you are going through. I was very sorry to hear the news when I checked the site today. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your friends and family.
I’m sure it will be some time before you are up to posting here regularly, but try not to worry about things like that. I’m sure me and your other readers will be patienty waiting til your up to it.
take care, Lucas S.
October 31st, 2007 at 2:58 pm
Cary, my deep condolences. I’ll keep you in my prayers and ask God that He may give you the strength and the wisdom as you embark on this season and come through with renewal and vigor. If there’s anything I can do for you, please let me know.
Love, IG
October 31st, 2007 at 7:41 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if I were in your position. All I can say is that everyone who uses this site is thinking about you and hope that you can remain strong through this terrible ordeal. Once again, I am so sorry for your loss.
November 1st, 2007 at 1:14 am
Ah jeez Cary, I am so sorry. Dan
November 1st, 2007 at 5:35 am
Dear Cary,
I’m a reader of your blog since day one, and hearing this news is simply awful. Despite that I’ve never known you personally, by reading all the things you’ve written, I almost got to know you, you almost became a friend. When I read the title of the headline in my feed reader I realised that something was wrong and unfortunately reading the content confirmed the suspiction. I’m serious when I’m saying that I almost cried then.
I’m sorry if i couldn’t express my feelings in a better way, but my English isn’that good.
My best wishes
Gabriele Muscas
Florence, Italy.
November 1st, 2007 at 9:50 am
I have lost the half of myself ? A soul for which mine was made. —Voltaire
God bless you sir. I can not fully comprehend your loss.
November 1st, 2007 at 11:26 am
I am so sorry man, you have my deepest condolences, and know that i am with you in this dark times,
Duja, Serbia
November 1st, 2007 at 1:43 pm
I’m very sorry to hear this. My condolences.
November 2nd, 2007 at 1:15 am
I can’t being to imagine what you are going through. Reemmber you’ve got alot of friends on here that are there for you dude. If there’s anything that I can just drop me an email.
November 2nd, 2007 at 7:42 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss! Hang in their our friend!
November 3rd, 2007 at 7:56 am
I watched my lovely 2 year old daughter die in agony of cancer in 1991.
I too could not believe that the pain I felt was survivable. I couldn’t understand how I was still alive. Worse, that death sparked a divorce - hard on the heels of that stupendous loss.
I had to deal with, what was to me anyway, 2 deaths.
I still feel the pain when I stop to think about it.
No humans words can describe that kind of inner pain.
Good friends and the mercy of God and faith in him got me through it all.
But my guitar sure helped a lot! Music can express that which no tongue can.
Play your grief. It will become the most beautiful music you’ve ever heard. A music that will bring healing or comfort to other broken hearts.
Lord be with you.
November 3rd, 2007 at 8:55 am
I’m deeply saddened about you and your family’s loss, Cary.
All the best,
Jason
November 4th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
Carey I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine what the pain must be that you are going through
There is nothing harder than this
I heard this song on youtube and I want to share it with you,
Its good to cry and let out what you feel inside.. Be blessed my brother
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PShv7ti-dQ
November 4th, 2007 at 6:35 pm
PEACE Cary……..let the music heal your soul
November 7th, 2007 at 3:19 pm
Cary,
Im deeply sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Take care,
Franck
November 11th, 2007 at 7:50 pm
Cary, I don’t know what to say other than you are in my thoughts and prayers.
November 13th, 2007 at 8:57 am
I am sorry to learn what hard times have beset you…have my condolences and my good thoughts wishing you strength to withstand these moments of deep grief. May her soul rest in peace and her memory never depart from her friends’ hearts. Florin Tibu, Softpedia.com Audio Editor.
November 15th, 2007 at 5:38 am
Hi
Words are not enough to help. There is nothing left to say (A French reader).
November 16th, 2007 at 2:49 pm
[…] must say that my friend Cary’s (Electric Guitar Review) post a couple of weeks ago that his beloved Lori passed away due to cancer made me stop for a bit to […]
November 20th, 2007 at 8:33 am
I pray that God gives you strength to surrvive this terrible time.
November 26th, 2007 at 7:32 pm
So sorry for your loss. Situations like this really leave you at a loss for words. Take care, I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Thomas
November 27th, 2007 at 9:27 am
[…] Dear Friends Early this past Saturday morning, October 27th, my dear wife Lori passed away at the tender age of just 31. She was surrounded by loved ones, in the comfort of her own home, and in absolute & perfect peace. While I have already endured more pain than I thought humanly possible, I expect that in the […] […]
December 18th, 2007 at 11:49 am
Dear Cary,
I wish you all the strength in the world.
Regards Walter
December 27th, 2007 at 9:52 am
Cary,
I’m a new reader to your site. Thank you for persevering through your grief. I appreciate what you do and who you are.
I hope this new year brings you joy and love.
Thank you for enriching my life.
Best regards,
L.A. Martin